RMPsoulmagazineoutstretchedFunny how if I left my kids at home to go to Mexico with my spouse then I was being an awesome mom. But if I wanted to leave my kids at home to go to Mexico with my girlfriends then I was an awful mom.


Fuck that. 

#for Reticent Mental Property. images courtesy of the web.





6 thoughts on “Perspective

  1. Those 2 perspectives are not the proper ones. The true perspective will be when your children are adults and then you will be able to see for yourself what an incredible mother you really were and continue to be. Ole!


  2. There are all sorts of moments that begin with me saying, “wait. really? this isn’t how everyone has managed a marriage?” and I’m well read, I’m a smart person, I’m generally assertive– but not when it came to this relationship. Here’s the thing- I leaned on him for too much, he leaned on me for too much but the difference is, i filled his void and emptied myself. I didn’t realize it. I didn’t realize it until 30 years went by…I was exhausted. And never cared, loved, did, said, initiated, appreciated, “enough.” Whew! I’m breathing now!

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  3. I’m having a helluva time breaking out. It’s bee 14 months of waffling, wavering, ignoring, adjusting, defending… It’s my fear of not keeping him happy. i have done it for so long it’s like I don’t know how to do “this” to him. I am struggling. Friend suggested I read some books about co-dependency. I really, really reject that notion…but I’ll do my research before I dismiss. Always learning.


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